Location, Location, Location...
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Here's where change is possible: here and now.There's no other location that works!
And this is important because our attention has the capacity to be all over the place--past, future, worlds that never existed... but actual change only happens here and now.
So when your life is blocked somehow, the first thing to do is to come into here and now. When you do, you'll probably feel some relief already!
I suggest the following steps:
Notice how you are sitting (or standing). Let your awareness come more fully into your body. Perhaps the easiest way to do this is to find where your body is in contact with something, and feel the sensation of that contact.
For example, right now I am sitting. I feel the contact of my feet on the floor. I feel my upper thighs and buttocks and back resting on the chair. I feel my hands resting on the laptop keyboard. I take time to savor those sensations.
Another way that works for many people is to feel the breath. ("I'm noticing the feel of my breathing.")
And then, for Focusing, I include my awareness of the inner area of my body: the area that includes my throat, chest, stomach, and belly.
The body's sense of what is stuck
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Many methods say it is good to be in the here and now. The trouble is, they don't always say how to do it.
And they don't always say what to do next.
Here's what I'd suggest: Now that you're in body awareness, invite the trouble that's been bugging you to form as a body sense.
Like this: "I'm inviting the feel right now of that whole thing about the unfinished project."
Use non-judging language. (Not "that whole thing about being useless and lazy.") Just name the issue without interpreting it, like a neutral party.
Then wait with awareness in your body... wait for something to arise. It won't be strange or unfamiliar, probably. But it might be vague and hard to describe. That's the place where we can lose track, and think it's not working, or think it's nothing. Your body gives you its whole "feel" of the issue you're stuck about, and you need to give it time to do that, and also patience, if it's unclear or vague.
There is more to the process, but it all starts here--with location, location, location.
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